This resource list is designed to be read top to bottom (assuming you are starting your trans allyship journey here). Basic trans allyship is at the top, and things get more advanced as you move down the page.
I recommend focusing on things I have placed in named sections, as these are my favorite resources for that topic. There are also more resources at the bottom, which are good reads but I did not want to clutter up the main resource list.
Basics about the term "transgender", gender identity, pronouns, and allyship.
More information about what it means to be trans and why people know they are trans. Also gives basic information about transitioning.
Transgender identity, issues, and stories basics.
Contrary to how many of how many of us were taught by society, sex is not binary. It is important to understand this to break down the binary of sex and the binary of gender.
One of the most common objections to letting trans people transition and live their lives is that they will regret it later and detransition. However, this is not the case.
Trans women are often cut out of feminist spaces and feminist perspectives because they are not seen as having the essential experiences of "womanhood". However, this ignores the lived reality of trans women.
Addresses common misconceptions and mistakes made by transgender allies (backhanded compliments, inappropriate questions, transitions)
Offers alternatives to common trans exclusive language.
Prompts cisgender people think about their privilege and help them develop the empathy to improve their allyship
Explains the best way to deal with your feelings (as a parent) when your child comes out as trans.
If a loved one in your life recently came out as trans, you likely (to no fault of your own) are exhibiting some of these behaviors.
A non-binary guide for parents: what that means, and how to begin understanding and supporting your child.
There are many comments made by cis people that are intended as jokes or even compliments. However, they have transphobic undertones. Below are some of the common ones so you can call them out when you see them:
Addresses the four most common cissexist and transphobic compliments I see as a trans person. These compliments rely on the assumption that trans is bad, cis is good, and trans people want to be cis - even if that is not the speakers intent.
TikTok response by a trans woman about why these "best of both worlds" lucky comments are rooted in cis sexism and transphobia, and ignore the real struggles of trans women
Unfortunately there are some more nuanced forms of extremely harmful transphobia. Understanding these is a more advanced task for an ally, but key to becoming more capable in providing trans people support.
Explains how biological sex as we know it is a social construct. Riley J. Dennis is an intersectional feminist. Many of her videos have such mixed ratings as she is frequently targeted by hate groups for being a lesbian trans woman making intersectional feminism content.
Explains one of the most dangerous and vocal trans hate groups: Trans Exclusionary Radical "Feminists" (TERFs). She takes on their comment arguments and explains how they are just appropriating feminist sounding arguments to disguise transphobia. Learning how to recognize and take on TERFs is a valueable asset as a cis trans ally.
Extensive resource site ran by a trans woman. Has lots of short TikTok videos categorized into different allyship sections.
Playlist of videos to give an introduction to trans lives, terminology, and issues.
Addresses some common pitfalls commonly made my cisgender people when talking to transgender people.
Addresses common mistakes made by allies too transgender people, such as unintentionally transphobic compliments and binary enforcing language.
Addresses common mistakes made by allies in regards to non-binary people.
An extensive list of LGBTQ+ terminology.
Reference site for personal pronouns: why they are important, how to use them, how to handle mistakes, and how to share your own pronouns.
A PDF guide with gender identity 101, nonbinary definitions, gender neutral language, and recommended policies for workplaces.
Universaty of Maryland's LGBTQ Equity Center best practicies for gender and sexuality inclusion. A brief guide.